May 10, 2013 by Jen Cudmore
Which one of us hasn’t compared ourselves to another mom and felt like we came up short? It can be hard at times to remember that we’re the best mom for our kids, especially when “supermom” walks by. Of course we know there’s no such thing as the perfect mother and that “supermom” has her faults. But if you’re like me, you still want to be the best parent you can be.
During a recent Bible Study on parenting, a couple of the leaders encouraged us not to be surprised when our children make less than stellar choices. And yet, when my son recently did something I never imagined he’d do, I was shocked. Later, once I got past the rush of emotion and questioning what I did wrong, I chuckled at myself. I reminded myself that my son and I are both fallible creatures, and it’s okay to make mistakes. Motherhood is a journey, after all. We’re not born great parents — we learn as we go.
So how does an imperfect mom raise imperfect children to be responsible, successful adults in an imperfect world? We equip our children with the right tools and leave the rest to God. We’ve been given a great responsibility. The goal is not to be “supermom” but to prepare our children for adulthood. Comparing ourselves to other moms (or our offspring to other children) doesn’t get us any closer to that goal.
I don’t know about you, but I want my Savior to tell me “well done” when I get to Heaven. We mustn’t focus on what we’ve done wrong or compare ourselves to other moms. Let’s consistently seek wisdom from God (and women who’ve gone before us!) and apply what we learn. We must be intentional. We must be grateful. We must be positive.
Blessings to you on Mother’s Day. May you refuse to let imperfection keep you from being a great mom!