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Understand Birth Order, Understand Your Child


June 3, 2013 by Jen Cudmore

Do you agree that everyone possesses a unique personality? For my part, I always understood I’m a driven person. I like to learn, and to some extent, I like to lead. In childhood, I often bossed around my younger siblings. In high school I excelled in my classes, not only because of the fulfillment if gave me but also because I knew I’d need a good GPA to earn scholarships for college. After my wedding, I read resources on marriage and parenting so I could foster a positive, healthy environment at home. On the job, I work diligently to be present as often as possible, stay within the required schedule, get along with other employees, and be someone others can count on to accomplish a task.

But why do I have this personality? I used to believe it was just the way God made me. But a few years ago I discovered there are certain patterns for personalities, and part of that is based on where you fit in your family. Dr. Kevin Leman, psychologist and best-selling author, states “Birth order powerfully influences who you are, who you marry, the job you choose, and the kind of parent you are.” He explains why your parents and siblings are so influential in who you become.

My intent when reading the Birth Order Book was to better understand myself. However, I found that I learned a great deal about other people in my life: my siblings, parents, friends, and coworkers. This book promises to “help you understand yourself, get along better with others, overcome ingrained tendencies you never though you could get rid of, and be more successful in the workplace.”

I got all that and more! The information has helped me better relate to my children. I understand why my daughter is a “daddy’s girl” and why my son and I tend to clash so much. This is another book I highly recommend for parents!


  1. Joanna says:

    But you never said where in the birth order you were! :]

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