For now, I’m taking a break from writing novels to focus on other ministry objectives and take a different direction with my blog.
I’ve decided to come clean about some difficulties in my marriage because being real with others brings healing and camaraderie.
The scripture tells us to confess our faults one to another (James 5:16), and to uplift each other during struggles (1 Thessalonians 5:11). I’ve been tremendously encouraged by other women who experienced rough patches in marriage, and my hope is that my personal trials may be an inspiration to other couples to stay put and make it work.
There are so many books and blogs out there that promote staying married, and they have great advice. But honestly, it’s sometimes hard to listen to what others have to say when they have never been on the brink of divorce themselves.
How do you stay in a marriage when love has fled and you can’t seem to find a good reason to keep your vows? How do you communicate when you just don’t understand the other person, who in turn can’t see your perspective, either? How do you overcome all the hurt and pain, and learn to trust again? How do you press on when admiration and attraction have faded, you have nothing in common any more, and you’re tired of not having your needs met?
How do you persevere when it all comes crashing down around you and you can’t even think straight?
As Tim and I share what we’ve experienced, what we’ve learned, and what God has done, we hope you’ll join in the discussion – we’re open to any tips you may have! Please note this is not a forum for “husband bashing”. We will not be revealing our spouse’s faults. We are called to honor our husbands, not tell the world all they’ve done wrong. Love covers a multitude of sins (1 Peter 4:8).
Click here to skim through all my posts about marriage struggles and what God has been teaching me in this season of suffering and growth.
Here is a list of books I’ve read on marriage or spiritual growth which I would recommend to other wives.
So Long Insecurity by Beth Moore
Sacred Influence by Gary Thomas
Deeper by Debbie Alsdorf
Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage by Mark Gungor
When Life is Hard by James MacDonald
Crazy Love by Francis Chin
Praying For Your Husband From Head to Toe by Sharon Jaynes
Captivating by John & Stasi Eldridge
For Women Only by Shanti Feldham